Words from the therapist.
Do you ever think about the narrative that you hear in your head and where it came from? Many times, you develop beliefs about yourself in childhood.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that you had bad parents, but as a young child in a young mind, you snapshot or perceive things a certain way, and then they become your truth. You have these negative beliefs, and then you take them into your adulthood, still saying the same things to yourself, and they hinder you from achieving the goals that you originally were so desperate to achieve.
It’s that voice that continues to tell you that you’re not good enough or you have to be perfect and please everyone. This prevents you from being who you really want to be. The reality is this is not you, it’s behavioral because you were taught to think a certain way.
If it’s behavioral, it means you can change it because it was learned. All learned behaviors can be relearned to allow for a healthier way of thinking.
The key to stop this way of thinking is through cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness, and EMDR therapy. These therapies will help you learn to become more aware of your thinking. When you have awareness of your thinking, you are able to change it (if you want to).
It’s also important to reprocess your childhood traumas so that you can move forward in your life and allow the trauma to be a reality, but not something that’s going to trigger (influence) your life forever.
It’s through these methods of healing that you can reclaim your truth and your purpose in life.